Three years ago, if anyone had asked me would I return to South Carolina to live after moving away, my answer would've been a blunt, "Hell to the no!" Maybe it's because I was born and raised in SC and it was all I really knew. Even as a kid I was fully aware that there was so much more out there and if I truly desired a career in entertainment I'd someday have to leave to make it all a reality.
So, I tried to move out on my own a few years ago to California, home of the stars and where dreams come true. I had the time of my life. I made new friends, partied, explored LA, partied, went out on auditions, and partied some more. But to my dismay, I ended up right back in South Carolina the following year.
Fast forward to August of last year. With a solid plan and my partying mindset fading away, I relocated to Cali once again. I really did believe nothing could stop me. I’d been there before and knew exactly what to expect.
The first few months passed by pretty smoothly. I got adjusted to my job and continued to have a plan for every step of the way. But a few months ago, things began to change in ways I never expected. There were days I felt so alone. I'd made friends at work and bonded really well with my roommates, but nothing compared to the connections I'd made back home. I didn't miss South Carolina one bit, but missed my family dearly and felt in need of a support system. Along with that, I struggled to figure out a concrete new living situation. And after I tried and tried, I realized that things just didn't feel "right"...not at all like they had before. I wasn't sure if I had planned things out too much or what. So I made the decision to relocate back home.
With age comes wisdom and I'm wise enough to know that sometimes when you think you have all the answers and everything figured out to a T, God can step right in with a different plan. As of right now I don't have all the answers. However, I do know what I want for my life and believe I've most definitely been blessed with the ability to make it all happen. It's all just a matter of when and how.
Who knows where I'll be six months to a year from now. Maybe Atlanta. Maybe Florida. Maybe I'll just continue to travel until I find my ideal place. Or hell, maybe my ass will still be right here in South Carolina. I've reached a point in life where I believe in the impossible and know anything can happen when it's least expected. I'm open to all possibilities.
So stay tuned...There's so much more to come.
The question of how soon can one become intimate after meeting someone new has been posed time and time again. To further explore this topic, one must ask themselves, “What exactly am I looking for?”. Already possessing the answer is the key to determining whether or not you should throw caution aside and get lost between the sheets.
So have you already come to terms with what it is you’re searching for? Ladies, do you care if the guy you’re seeing thinks you’re easy? Is your only concern getting your rocks off and sending his ass home afterward? If so, I say go for it. You only live once, right?! And who cares what he thinks if you’re not interested in getting to know his last name or what he likes to eat.
Now if you’re fully aware of your intentions to settle down and fall for “Mr. Right” instead of “Mr. Right Now”, you might wanna pump your brakes and ponder on this for a moment. If your long-term goals include settling down to get that ring and walk down the aisle, your best bet might be to cross your legs and count to three whenever temptation creeps through your mind.
Let’s say you really like this guy and want a commitment but you go and pull out your freak flag within two weeks of knowing him. Then you find out you despise the way he snores, or the way he smacks his food. Maybe you discover he has a baby mama or two, or worse that he’s married and has been keeping it all a secret from you! See where I’m going with this? If not, let me make it perfectly clear…If you’re in search of commitment, WAIT TO HAVE SEX!
In my opinion, there’s something sexy and classy about not jumping into bed with someone you barely know. So many women, and men as well, can’t figure what it is they’re doing wrong. They want the perfect spouse but are so quick to take off their clothes in the heat of passion. Now don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of relationships that come from one night stands and having sex on the first few dates. It all depends on the individual.
So, the decision is really up to you. If you think it’s best to wait and the person you’re dating disagrees, then maybe he or she isn’t the right one for you. Remember, there are tens of thousands of other fish in the sea. But no matter what you decide, to wait or not, ALWAYS wrap it up! Safe sex is always the way to go!