To Freak or Not to Freak

The question of how soon can one become intimate after meeting someone new has been posed time and time again. To further explore this topic, one must ask themselves, “What exactly am I looking for?”. Already possessing the answer is the key to determining whether or not you should throw caution aside and get lost between the sheets.

So have you already come to terms with what it is you’re searching for? Ladies, do you care if the guy you’re seeing thinks you’re easy? Is your only concern getting your rocks off and sending his ass home afterward? If so, I say go for it. You only live once, right?! And who cares what he thinks if you’re not interested in getting to know his last name or what he likes to eat.

Now if you’re fully aware of your intentions to settle down and fall for “Mr. Right” instead of “Mr. Right Now”, you might wanna pump your brakes and ponder on this for a moment. If your long-term goals include settling down to get that ring and walk down the aisle, your best bet might be to cross your legs and count to three whenever temptation creeps through your mind.

Let’s say you really like this guy and want a commitment but you go and pull out your freak flag within two weeks of knowing him. Then you find out you despise the way he snores, or the way he smacks his food. Maybe you discover he has a baby mama or two, or worse that he’s married and has been keeping it all a secret from you! See where I’m going with this? If not, let me make it perfectly clear…If you’re in search of commitment, WAIT TO HAVE SEX!

In my opinion, there’s something sexy and classy about not jumping into bed with someone you barely know. So many women, and men as well, can’t figure what it is they’re doing wrong. They want the perfect spouse but are so quick to take off their clothes in the heat of passion. Now don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of relationships that come from one night stands and having sex on the first few dates. It all depends on the individual.

​So, the decision is really up to you. If you think it’s best to wait and the person you’re dating disagrees, then maybe he or she isn’t the right one for you. Remember, there are tens of thousands of other fish in the sea. But no matter what you decide, to wait or not, ALWAYS wrap it up! Safe sex is always the way to go!